All kids have times when they struggle to handle life's expectations. Those with significant behavioral challenges seem to have more of those times, and respond in ways that are more extreme. But whether your child responds in ways that are more concerning -- hitting, kicking, screaming, swearing, biting, spitting -- or in ways that are more tame -- whining, pouting, sulking, crying, withdrawing -- your goal is to identify and solve the problems that are causing those behaviors. If you only focus on modifying the behaviors, the problems will remain unsolved. So you'll need a list of the expectations your child is having difficulty meeting -- these are called "unsolved problems" -- and then you'll want to solve those probems collaboratively and proactively (rather than unilaterally and emergently). Your first stop is the The Walking Tour...it's going to guide you through the key facets of Dr. Ross Greene's Collaborative & Proactive Solutions (CPS) model, as described in his books The Explosive Child and Raising Human Beings. And there are lots of additional resources to help you out after that:
Take the Walking Tour: Through demonstration videos and audio programming, you'll be helped to understand your child's challenging episodes, to identify unsolved problems, and to start solving problems collaboratively and proactively. Your role is going to change: you won't be in the "behavior modification" business anymore, you'll be in the problem solving business instead. Whether you're trying to reduce challenging episodes or help your child learn and practice some really important skills -- or both -- when you're ready to get started, click here.
Join In: Longing for something more interactive? We have two Facebook groups for parents...Action Plan B is for parents of behaviorally challenging kids (click here for that)...Elevate Your Parenting is for all parents (click here for that)...
Listen In: Dr. Greene's web-based radio program Parenting Your Behaviorally Challenging Child -- sponsored by Lives in the Balance -- airs every Monday, September though May. Dr. Greene and his co-host, Susy Portin (she's parented a few behaviorally challenging kids) are always delighted to answer questions and help out. If you can't listen in live, recordings of past programs are listed by topic in the vast Listening Library. Click Here
Write In: If you're interested in sharing your own hurdles, doubts, challenges, and/or breakthroughs -- in writing -- the Tell Your Story page is the place to do it.
Hear More: You may want to check out the Hot Topics section, where specific issues and difficulties that often arise in implementing the CPS model are discussed.
Get a Front Row Seat: Do you prefer getting your info live, in person, from Dr. Greene and those he's trained? Check out the Workshops/Training page...there are lots of different training options to meet your specific needs.
Sneak Preview: If you're the type of person who wants to dip your toe in the water before jumping in, you can read a one-page summary of the CPS model...just click here. You can come back for more after that.