Plan B doesn't work very well if you're really using Plan A. And oftentimes, adults are certain they already know what a kid's concern is, so they don't put any effort into figuring it out. Sometimes, the concerns of the two parties aren't clear enough to begin considering potential solutions. And sometimes adults do a great job of getting concerns on the table but then unilaterally solve the problem anyway. You'll see these common patterns depicted in this video.